Moving on ain’t easy

The thought occurred to me that since my divorce, grief was the mantle of my own identity. I focused on my grief and made certain others knew of my pain. Receiving condolences was the most positive thing in my life at that time and I subconsciously invited the commiseration of others as a substitute to offset my depression.

More than just words, vows are commitments

If you lose the race, why blame your shoes? Couples in troubled relationships often do just that - they find a reason to divert a consequence away from themselves, a probable co-conspirator. It always takes two people to cause a marriage failure. Couples in marriages that thrive and survive are vigilant in honoring their vows! In 1944, only 1.7% of all marriages in the U.S. ended in divorce. Americans are now faced with the stunning reality that marriages today have become a coin flip - 50/50. What has changed?

…but words can really hurt you

The thought occurred to me that you cannot unsay a cruel word. A spoken cruel word is like a shot bullet. It’s difficult to grab that spent bullet and stuff it back in the gun barrel. How many times have we said something, only to wish we could take it back? You cannot un-ring a bell any more than you can retract a word uttered in anger.

Have you checked yours lately?

Has it ever occurred to you that if you were having sex in the ‘60s, you’re probably in your sixties?

The question is, are you still having sex in your sixties?

Making love has no bar code attached to it, nor does its shelf life expire just because there are a greater number of candles on your birthday cake.

You can still hit a golf ball, you can still hit a yellow tennis ball, so why not hit on your spouse?

Why do many couples place their libido into storage as they progress into AARPdom? It doesn’t have to be that way!